How to keep yourself fulfilled?

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1. Why is inner fulfillment so important?

Inner fulfillment is a state of being: you feel satisfied, calm, passionate about life, and have a clear sense of direction. This state is not innate, but can be cultivated through conscious efforts. Psychologist Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory points out that when basic needs (such as physiology and safety) are met, humans will pursue a higher level of sense of belonging, respect and self-realization. And inner fulfillment is the embodiment of these high-level needs.

Why is inner fulfillment so important?

1. Bringing lasting happiness: Unlike short-term material satisfaction, inner fulfillment allows you to find happiness from the inside and can recover quickly even when facing setbacks.

2. Enhance psychological resilience: People with a fulfilled heart can better cope with stress and uncertainty, like a deep-rooted tree that can stand firm without storm.

3. Improve the quality of life: A fulfilling heart makes you know how to cherish the present more. Whether it is the laughter with friends or the tranquility of being alone, it can become a source of happiness.

However, the fast pace and information overload of modern society often make us lose. Browse your phone, chase hot spots, compete for achievements... These external stimuli fill time, but make your heart more empty. How to break this cycle? The answer lies in starting from three dimensions: self-cognition, emotional connection and sense of meaning, and systematically cultivate a state of inner fulfillment.

2. Talk to your true self

The starting point for inner fulfillment is to understand yourself. Many people are busy all their lives, but never stop to ask: "What do I really want?" Here are a few practical methods to help you talk to your heart and build a deeper self-awareness.

1. Reflection and awareness: Listen to the voice of your heart

Spend 10 minutes of reflection every day, either by writing a diary, meditating, or just quietly feeling your emotions. Try to answer these questions:

• What made me happy or satisfied today?

• What makes me feel upset or lost?

• Do my behavior conform to my inner values?

Action Suggestions : Prepare a notebook and record 3 things that make you feel touched every day, whether it is joy or confusion. After persisting for a week, you will find that your inner needs are gradually becoming clear.

2. Accept yourself: Embrace the imperfect self

The root of many people’s inner emptiness is their harshness of themselves and they always feel that they are “not good enough”. In fact, accepting one's imperfection is the cornerstone of inner fulfillment. Psychologist Bryn Brown mentioned in "Accepting the Imperfect Self" that true courage is to dare to show his true self, including his fragile side.

Try to see failure as an opportunity to learn, rather than deny your own reasons. For example, a mistake at work does not mean you are incompetent, but reminds you that you can improve next time. Learn to say to yourself, “I’m growing, that’s enough.”

Action Suggestions : Say something to encourage yourself every day in the mirror, such as "I deserve to be loved" and "I am getting better". This sounds simple, but it can gradually rebuild confidence.

3. Explore the inner needs: find your "why"

Psychologist Victor Frankel wrote in "Living the Meaning of Life" that finding the meaning of life is the core driving force of mankind. Ask yourself: What makes me feel alive? Is it creating, learning, helping others, or pursuing art? If you find your "why", you will have a constant stream of motivation in your heart.

Action Suggestions : List 5 things that make you excited or satisfied, such as travel, writing, and fitness. Then choose one of them and invest 1 hour a week to practice it, and feel the fulfillment it brings.

3. Cultivate emotional connections and establish connections with others and yourself

Human beings are social animals, and their inner fulfillment cannot be separated from their connection with others and their harmony with themselves. Here are two key connection methods.

1. High-quality interpersonal relationships: Let love and warmth flow

Research shows that high-quality interpersonal relationships are an important source of happiness. Rather than pursuing a wide range of social circles, it is better to focus on several sincere relationships. Here are some tips:

• Proactively express: Say the truth to your friends or family, such as “I’m grateful that you have always supported me.” Sincere expression can deepen the connection between each other.

• In-depth listening: When communicating with people, put down your phone and focus on listening to the other person’s story. Try to ask: "Have you been happy recently?" Such a question can bring the distance closer.

• Regular contact: Send a message to someone who makes you feel warm every week, even if it’s just a greeting. This tiny connection can also make the heart more fulfilled.

Action Suggestions : Contact a friend who has not been in contact for a long time this week and make an appointment with a meeting or a video chat. Feel each other’s warmth and you will find that your heart is filled with a little.

2. Enjoy being alone: Be friends with yourself

Being alone is not loneliness, but the ability to get along with yourself. Learn to enjoy being alone and you will find inner peace and strength. Here are a few practices of being alone:

• Read: Read a book that touches the soul, such as "The Little Prince" or "Living", so that the text can lead you into a deeper world.

• Creation: Trying to draw, write poetry, do handicrafts, and even just doodle casually, can immerse you in the happiness of the present.

• Nature: Go for a walk in the park, feel the touch of the wind blowing through your face, or observe the texture of the leaves. Nature has the power to heal people's hearts.

Action tips : Set aside 30 minutes tonight, turn off your phone, and do something that will relax, such as listening to music or taking a hot bath. Feel the tranquility of being alone, and you will love yourself more.

4. Find a sense of meaning and make life more valuable

The core of inner fulfillment is to find the meaning of life. No matter whether your goal is big or small, it can light up your heart as long as it makes you feel "worthy". Here are a few methods:

1. Devote interest and love: ignite the spark in your heart

Everyone has something that excites themselves, maybe cooking, photography, running, or learning a new language. By investing in these activities, you will feel as if time is still and your heart is completely filled.

Action Suggestions : List 3 things you have always wanted to try, such as learning guitar and making cakes. Choose one, start small, such as watching a 10-minute teaching video, and then act immediately.

2. Help others: Get from giving

Psychological research shows that helping others can not only enhance happiness, but also enhance self-worth. Here are some simple ways to help:

• Share knowledge: Answer a question online, or teach a friend a skill you are good at.

• Volunteering activities: Participate in the community’s public welfare activities, such as donating food to stray animals or participating in environmental protection activities.

• Small kindness: Help colleagues share a small task, or give strangers a smile.

Action Suggestions : Do a good deed this week, such as donating an old book to the library, or helping your neighbors get a courier. Record the feelings this incident brings to you.

3. Set small goals: make progress visible

Although grand dreams are good, they are often discouraged. Small goals are easier to achieve and can also bring about a continuous sense of accomplishment. for example:

• Read 10 pages of books every day and you can finish one in a month.

• Run 3 times a week, and after 2 months you will find that you have increased your strength.

• Write 100 words a day and you can complete a small diary by the end of the year.

Action Suggestions : Set a week-long small goal, such as drinking 8 glasses of water a day. Reward yourself after completion, such as watching a favorite movie.

5. Maintain psychological flexibility and make your heart stronger

Life cannot be smooth sailing, and people who are fulfilled in their hearts know how to face the trough. Here are several ways to enhance psychological resilience:

1. Manage negative emotions: Let the clouds float by

When you feel anxious or depressed, try the following:

• Deep breathing: Inhale slowly for 4 seconds, exhale for 4 seconds, repeat 5 times to quickly calm your mood.

• Exercise: Running, yoga or simple stretching can relieve stress and make you feel relaxed.

• Confession: Find someone you trust to share your feelings, or write it down to release your emotions.

Action tips : Next time you feel irritated, try taking a deep breath for 5 minutes and then record your mood changes.

2. Gratitude exercise: Discover the beauty of life

Gratitude can make us focus on the positive aspects of life. Write down 1-3 things that make you grateful for every day, such as sunshine, greetings from friends, or a delicious meal. Research shows that those who persist in gratitude practice for 4 weeks have a significant improvement in happiness.

Action Suggestions : Write down 3 things to be grateful before going to bed tonight, stick to it for a week, and see how your mood changes.

3. Embrace uncertainty: Learn to dance with change

Life is full of unknowns, and accepting this can make your heart more calm. Tell yourself: "I can't control everything, but I can choose how to deal with it." This kind of thinking can make you feel safe in the change.

Action Suggestions : When facing a decision that disturbs you, write down 3 possible positive results, such as "I can learn something even if I fail."

6. Start your first step from now on

Here is a simple 7-day plan to help you take the first step:

• Day 1 : Write down 3 things that make you happy and find your inner spark.

• Day 2 : Contact a friend and talk about each other’s recent situation.

• Day 3 : Spend 30 minutes to be alone and do something that will relax you.

• Day 4 : Set a small goal for a week, such as walking 5,000 steps a day.

• Day 5 : Do a good deed, such as bringing a cup of coffee to a colleague.

• Day 6 : Write down 3 things to be grateful for and feel the beauty of life.

• Day 7 : Look back on this week and record your feelings and changes.

Small reminder : Don’t pursue perfection. Even if you only make 1% improvement every day, you will find yourself more fulfilling and happier in one month.

7. Be fulfilled in your heart and live your best self

Inner fulfillment is a choice and a ability. It does not require you to have a perfect life, but allows you to find your own light in an imperfect world. Whether you are a busy office worker, a confused student, or a traveler looking for directions, as long as you are willing to take a step, a beautiful life that is fulfilling in your heart is right ahead.

Starting today, put down your phone, turn off distractions, give yourself some time to listen, connect, and create. Try to do something that makes you feel alive, such as drawing a picture, running a walk, or giving your lover a hug. You will find that the hollowness in your heart is being filled with warmth and life is also blooming quietly.

Are you ready to be your best self?

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